Over 30 and Still Single, Choosing To Remain Single, Still Single Quotations

We live in a society that has brainwashed us to believe that by the time you turn thirthy, you are supposed to be settled down, have a great husband/wife, beautiful children and a stable career. So when we do not have those things in our thirties, we begin think that we are failures, like we have done something wrong or that things have not worked out well for us. Hearing this our whole lives, has led us to conclude that when we get married everything will be better. We will have a family and live happily ever after like some fairy tale. Just because our parents, the media, society and religion tells us that this is what we are supposed to do, does that make it true? Are we all built to have a family, work a 9-5, or live the married life? Considering the state of marriage in this country, It is foolish to think that we all should desire this lifestyle .

Marriage use to mean being committed to one person for the rest of your life. It meant sticking it out when the times got ruff, when the passion died and when the looks faded. These days, marriage seems like something that people do when their deeply in love and everything is going well. Nonetheless, as soon as hard times approach or they become interested in someone else, they are quick to end the marriage. Case in point, the famous wedding of celebrity Kim Kardashian. So many people were obsessed with this wedding. You could not watch the news, read the paper or search the web without hearing about it. It was the wedding that many Americans watched and that cost millions to finance. This television event, probable had so many women in tears, envious, wishing they could be her. So, what a shock it was, when less then three months later, the news reported that marriage was over and the divorce papers had been filed. This does not only occur with celebrities in fact, it seems to be the reality of our country. So much so, that there is a T.V show that capitalizes on this idea. "Divorce Court" is a show that allows divorcing couples to come on television and air their dirty laundry. The show has been on television for years so apparently, their plenty of couples who are divorcing and even more people who want to hear about it. Sense, we know that this is the state that marriage is in, why are we in such a rush to tie the knot, while married couples are in such a rush to get divorced? It seems, the grass may not be greener on the other side, check out these celebrity quotes about marriage.

"Getting married and settling down isn't the most important thing in my life".Liam Neeson

"I like getting married, but I don't like being married".Don Adams

"A wedding is a funeral where you smell your own flowers".Eddie Cantor

"A good marriage would be between a blind wife and a deaf husband".

Michel de Montaigne.

Now that we have discovered that marriage isn't all that its cracked up to be, lets talk about having children.

Children are lovely, they can bring us so much joy and give our lives meaning. They are pure, innocent and depend on us to care for them. Let me repeat that, they depend on us to take care of them. Yes that's right, when you become a parent it is no longer about you. Their is a precious life that you brought into this world and are now responsible for taking care of. Your needs and wants has to be set aside in order to make sure that their needs are met. This is a blessing because your life has meaning and purpose now. However, what if you are not ready to put your dreams on hold? And as bad as it sounds, what if you are still somewhat self centered? Do you appreciate being able to come and go as you please? And when you have some extra money, do you like being able to spend it on those shoes that you have had your eyes on for a while? Well when you become a parent you no longer have that luxury. Your extra money must go towards whatever your children need.

"Having children really changes your priorities".
Cindy Crawford

To take it a step further, what if you had a child during a marriage or relationship that has failed? Think about the mess that is going to be. You have to be involved with a person that you may have come to hate for the rest of your life. Not to mention, the effects that divorces or break ups have on children. Considering all of this, are you sure you still want to have a family? How about having a stable career?

"Not having children is one less worry. Children are a worry"!
Jeanne Calment

Having a good career is important, we all need to work to make money and we all need money to survive. However, how is a stable career defined? Society would like us to believe that having a stable career means, getting up everyday going to work for eight hours, coming home and repeating the same thing the next day. Most of the time it involves, sitting in a job that you hate, with co-workers who make you miserable and a supervisor who micromanages. You wake up every morning wishing you could shoot yourself rather then go to your job. Most people who work in a 9-5 are usually unhappy and wish they could find another way to make money. So why do we desire a 9-5 career? We desire it because that is what we have been told we were supposed to do when we grew up.

“A cubicle is just a padded cell without a door.” —Anonymous

“They don’t want well informed, well educated people capable of critical thinking. They’re not interested in that . . . that doesn’t help them. That’s against their interests. That’s right”. … “You know what they want? They want obedient workers . . . Obedient workers, people who are just smart enough to run the machines and do the paperwork. … And just dumb enough to passively accept all these increasingly shitty jobs with the lower pay, the longer hours, the reduced benefits, the end of overtime and vanishing pension that disappears the minute you go to collect it.”

—George Carlin (on the American Dream)

With that said, is that really what you want in life? Or do you desire more.

The moral of this story is, that is okay to be single in yours thirties or any other age. The fact of the matter is that marriage does not always equal happiness. You have to sacrifice your dreams when you have children and 9-5 work is not for everyone. So, figure out where you want to be in life, and don't worry about where others tell you that you should be. Its about discovering what makes you happy, finding your passions and living life accordingly.